Have you ever noticed that when you leave a funeral, you feel like you know and understand that person so much more than you did or ever could have while they were alive? It’s like all the parts of their life and their heart are perfectly melded together to make a seamless picture of who they are (were).
This isn’t limited to the co-worker you sat next to or the old man from church. I even knew my own brother more after his funeral. This makes their death even worse; you long even more to know that person again, to spend more time with them. Sadly, your chance to befriend that person or enjoy an afternoon together will never come.
Today my little brother should be 24 years old. He should be living a full life surrounded by family and friends. He should have had many chances in life; a chance to drive a car, a chance to go to college, a chance to get married, a chance to have a job and so much more. Sadly, he died less than two weeks before his 16th birthday. He was a passenger in a car accident with two of his closest friends and he died.
Our Valentine’s weekend was a full one! It started with a nice steak dinner on Thursday night. The steak dinner was sponsored by the men in my husband’s fraternal organization. It was at a quaint restaurant called Broadripple Steak House. The steak was delicious and the company of those in our party was unbeatable!
When I left the Dot Com last month I left with 1 box of stuff. When I arrived at the Not For Profit that will be my new home, I brought a lot of stuff, was given a lot of stuff and asked what color I wanted my office to be painted. I selected a nice green color. Later I changed my mind an selected a more vibrant color called, Green Apple with a few accent stripes of Perfectly Pink.
Big, over the top, expensive or otherwise ridiculous engagement rings are stupid (like my sophomoric vocabulary?) in my opinion. I don’t say this because I am envious or because I don’t enjoy over the top-ness; in fact my engagement ring is much larger than I ever expected AND I love to do over the top things. Generally I don’t even wear my engagement ring, I stick to the simple, jewel-less wedding band that my husband and I selected the day before we left for our wedding.
Recently, I watched the movie, Bride Wars with some friends of mine. When Kate Hudson was presented with a hunk-a-hunk-a ring there were some loud gasps and screams in the theatre. It was rather humorous! I even joined in a second or two afterwards to mock them. (Spoiler Alert) Contrary to reality, Kate Hudson and her partners characters actually were the couple that stayed together in the end and Anne Hathaway with her modest ring (modest only in comparison) walked away without the man who bestowed her with it.
Reasons for Large Jewelry:
Elizabeth Taylor/Richard Burton twice married and divorced 69 Carat Harry Winston: Yeah, we see how that worked out…TWICE! And she had man-brows, she need something to distract people from looking at those things.
Madonna 3 Stone: She still cheated (allegedly). Guess that Guy Ritchie needed to reinvent himself.
Paris Hilton ($5 million 24 carat canary diamond ring and a $2.1 million 15 carat white diamond ring): She’s still ugly and gross and the relationship didn’t work out.
The Kobe $4 million Forgiveness Ring: 3 days after being charged with rape, Kobe gave this ring to Vanessa. This might be one of the only acceptable BIG rings.
Lady Diana (18 carat blue oval sapphire that was circled by fourteen diamonds): We all know the tragedy that come of this – perhaps the Prince should have taken lessons from Kobe.
The list goes on and on… Every time I see a large ring on a woman, especially on a woman of my same socio-economic status, I start to wonder. I don’t think I’m the only one either.
Some people ask for definitions of “big” and others provide that definition. Elias West from Send Out Cards says, “If you can hide a knuckle behind the diamond, it’s too big!”
Others might define big based upon price or even based upon the income of the individual purchasing the ring. My personal definition comes from the dollar standpoint. I hate hearing my friends fret over the 2-3 month salary price tag. I also hate to hear my friends expect that and place those expectations on their men. This summer, this was a big topic of conversation with our friends Mike and Chandra and I left the conversation (hoping) wondering if they would ever get married.
I love growing things. I don’t know if it’s because although I have so very little to do with it in the grand scheme of things, I know that my plants rely on me.
Today, a friend/co-worker (from the job that I left last week) passed away at the young age of 27. Despite having the best attitude and most positive outlook on life that one can have in a sales position during tough economic times, I know that she didn’t live a very healthy lifestyle. Not being a doctor and not knowing all of the details of her death (she had pneumonia per the diagnosis of a doctor the night before and then died overnight in her bed. Her husband found her that way when he went to check on her in the morning) I cannot tell you that her less than healthy lifestyle was cause for her death. However, I do know that bad eating habits, extra weight, smoking and high stress situations are not good on the heart.